On Rape & Blame.

The Cosby situation has really brought to surface many really fucked
up attitudes and views may Black men and women, especially so-called
Conscious Black men; have about Rape.  

I mean, I’m having to go
over the most basic understandings about rape to supposedly educated
conscious Black men, and women; and that’s a fucking problem.

As a
man who worked in level one trauma centers for years, where I would see
the (immediate) aftermath of rape on weekly basis; a man who
volunteered with Stop the Violence Coalition for years which targeted
Sexual and Domestic Violence; allow me to inform you ignorant

That means that women who follow all of your fucked up, and Sexist rules
for women still get raped. The women who dress “respectably,” who don’t
drink, who don’t go out at night still get raped. Women who are “good”
according to yall fucked up Puritanical morality and Victorian Era values still get raped.

There’s no such thing as good rape victims and bad rape victims; they are all rape victims!

I’ve seen cases were 80+ year old, church going, great grandmothers
were raped. Nursing home patients with advanced Alzheimer’s disease were
raped. Children who have not reach sexual maturity were raped. So fuck
you if you think rape is about sex, sexual attraction, or something the
victim did or failed to do.

Women, men, and children have been
raped in church, while in police custody, while bring treated in
hospitals, while attending elite schools, while enlisted in the US
military. Sober women are raped all the time! Where the fuck can a woman
(or men) go in this system and be safe from Rape?

How you dress is not the cause of rape.

A women dressed like a “slut” will not transform a non-rapist into a
rapist, and a women dressed like a “nun” will not transform a rapist
into a non-rapist; so stop telling women that it will, because you are
making women even more vulnerable to rape not less by telling them how
they dress will control the behavior of a rapist. That is a lie!

Rape is a crime that rest exclusively on the Rapist, and aside from
targeting the Rapist, and Rape Culture, there’s little else you can do
to end or reduce rape.

In fact, when Rapist are interviewed they
often admit that they target women they see as meek, weak, vulnerable,
and quite women, the kinda women yall think are good, holy, moral, and
appropriate; because they seem like easy marks. Unlike unruly,
misbehaving women. Ultimately, rapist are opportunistic, and will rape
anyone they think they can get away with raping, regardless of how they
are dressed.

Remember, Officer Holtzclaw fucking raped a grandmother!

So, again, fuck you if you suggest that how a woman was dressed is to
blame, or even contributed to her rape. Really, fuck you! In the name of
all of the Black women who’ve been raped; I say fuck you. Rape victims
are never to blame for their rape, ever, not in any way. Once stupid
muthafuckas figure that out, we’ll finally be on the path of solving
this problem.

It’s really sad that so many Black women are
talking this bullshit (as well), when the rape of Black women is a
cornerstone of American culture; yall should really know better. Not one
of us have an ancestors (families) who’ve been spared the trauma of
rape, we are all touched by rape, all of us. So Black people, most of
all should know fucking better than to be talking the kinda bullshit we
be talking about rape.

So, as I conclude allow me to say again:
FUCK YOU, if you are talking that “if she wasn’t _____________, she
would not have been raped,” or if you are talking that “rape victims
share some responsibility for their rape.”

Now, I’m all for women
training, arming themselves, and organizing against rape; but even if
they don’t they are still not to be blamed for the actions of rapist.